Comparison, the thief of joy
Comparison is probably one of the main factors towards failure. It is one of those things that is just so simple to do. Trust me, it is something I know all too well. So, in this branch blog, we will talk about all the different types of comparison and the different ways you can tackle them.
Comparing our lives to others; seeing other people ahead of us, whether it’s seeing someone on the same career path as us excelling whilst we are still trying to figure it out or seeing another person living your dream life on social media as it seems so unreachable at this moment in time. Firstly, I would like to remind you that not everything you see on social media is real life; most of the time, it is just highlights of our best bits, so please don’t be too hard on yourself. However, if you are to find yourself in this position, then my best advice is to allow yourself the freedom to achieve your goals. It is normal for it to take time; after all, good things do come to those who wait. I get that it does seem disheartening when somebody who is ten years younger than you is securing your dream job while you are yet to, but you should try your best to be happy for them as they were dreamers once, and they have achieved their goals, which you will too!
Comparing our looks, this is really one of the biggest thieves of joy. I was certainly guilty of it, and it has never done my mental health any favours. My advice would be to acknowledge your insecurities and the reasons why you feel the need to compare, and then try your hardest to overcome them. Remember, there's only one of you, and you are beautiful just the way you are.
The truth is, nobody's life is perfect. We all have our struggles, our insecurities, and our moments of doubt. And while it may be tempting to compare ourselves to others, it ultimately does us more harm than good.
So how can we tackle this tendency to compare? It all starts with a shift in perspective. Instead of focusing on what we lack or what others have, try to develop gratitude for the blessings in your own life. Remind yourself of all the things you have to be thankful for, whether it's a loving family, a supportive group of gal pals, or a fulfilling career. Comparison is a losing game. Let's instead embrace our own journey, with all its twists and turns, and trust that we are exactly where we need to be. Remember, everyone's journey is unique. What works for one person may not work for another. So instead of trying to emulate someone else's path, focus on finding your own way and staying true to yourself.
Love always Anaiá Xx
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